I Have Issues With People

“I have issues with people”.

I often think what I would think and do if my good friend “crossed” me. Take that in it’s very broadest application e.g. stole from me, lied to me, spouse took another partner, slandered me, refused to talk to me…think of your own atrocity or disappointment.

My first consideration is, “is it specifically against me, or is it a path that he has a need to follow?”

At this stage let’s drop gender. “He” relates to all, unless specifically identified.

We all have our weaknesses, our thoughts and reasons, and our insecurities. And our preferences!!!  It might just be that I might not be the “preferred” one, and / or I have seriously offended.

A continued recurrence, or savage assault, requires action, however, in other instances, I try to “roll with the punch”, and refuse to hold a grudge or continuing attitude of conflict.

A good friend, including your closest relative has his own path to run, and is nowhere near perfect – perhaps the same as you and me.

He has his own life to lead, no matter how close you are, and his insecurities. He has to assess his relationship with you, and how each other react to the myriad of circumstances which occur day-to-day.

I have trouble dealing with them – I guess he might also have concerns.

It is evident in today’s society, that there is a marked lack of respect and integrity.

We are experiencing an unprecedented era of lawlessness and violence, including road rage and general physical assault and abuse.

As I have remarked in previous blogs, this will not be solved by legislation. It is up to us as parents, as community members, and as individuals. Our continued attitude and integrity is everything.

The greatest gift that you can give is to “comprehend” an affront, and process it with due understanding and empathy.

One of my sign-off quotes is:

“Never pass the opportunity to allow someone to feel good about himself.”

It is far better, without patronising, to let the other know that you have absorbed the incident, and have left the door open to resolve any conflict. There is rarely right or wrong.

You both save face, and you for one, can sleep better, and face tomorrow without undue anxiety.

If he is a good friend, you have love. There is nothing more important in this short life.


Home Violence and Abuse, Street Violence, Police and Court Action

If you have never read anything that I have said, nor taken any notice, YOU need to read this. No sales pitch.

(I think that I might have said something similar before). I guess that I meant it.

I am, and I am sure that we all are, sick and tired of  the dismissive action from Police on the reports of violence and threat, and the disgusting rulings from the Courts on Violence, Rape, Murder, and Home Abuse.

We are quick to blame the Police and the Courts, with just cause, however, the problem can only be solved by YOU. No excuses, YOU.

In my day, we were brought up to respect all around us, work hard, and “do the right thing”.

Things have changed, and they have only changed because of YOU.

Don’t blame the Courts and the Schools…and everybody else…it is because of how you have brought up your children. The Teachers were brought up by YOU.

No matter how old you are and your children are, it is still up to YOU to bring them to act with love and integrity, and to do the right thing. Everybody knows what is “the right thing”, it is up to YOU to instill this daily down the line of your family and to all of your friends…every day.

The Police and the Government CAN NOT solve this problem.

WE can.

YOU DO IT, or you live with the consequences, and don’t complain.

On a lighter note, but equally as important, I watched a mum walking her 3 and 5 y.o. daughters down the beach at Mornington, today; all very happy and relaxed. The 3y.o had a dummy in her mouth!    Where is this headed?